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Old 09-23-2013, 07:36 PM   #1
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My family was being gross and I was angry hehe
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Old 09-23-2013, 07:42 PM   #2
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Ok, so here is my take. I don't know if I can quite yet comment on dropping these people from your life, but here is my thing about therapy. This is what I tell a lot of my teenage patients who are skeptical.

Therapy has some stigma in this country that is so wrong. SO WRONG. Just because one has a therapist does not mean that person is weak or unable to take care of their own feelings. It means that person has owned up to their feelings and emotions and wants to learn how to maturely handle them. Now, there is a danger with therapy in that when someone finds a therapist they don't jive with they give up all together.

Therapy is only useful when a) the person going is willing to try and be open with a stranger but more importantly b) that this stranger they meet is trustworthy. And if they aren't someone you see yourself talking to,it's not the end. There are more out there.
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Old 09-23-2013, 07:49 PM   #3
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I definitely need to learn how to handle my emotions maturely.
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I thought I was weak when I went into therapy and thought he same as you Deron...this woman doesn't give a shit about me so why would I talk...but I think that's the benefit...It's almost free reign to talk about what ever you want. And they may not fully care 100% but they ask the right questions and you will not only let a lot go but hopefully find understanding in what you are looking for. Giving it a shot could be really good for your soul. <3
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I agree with all of the above. Therapy can be a great tool to help you deal with your past and learn how to "let it go." And, not all therapists are good/relatable, so if you don't click with the first one, give it a try with another. Also, be prepared for your family to completely freak out if they find out about it. They are afraid you/the therapist will decide it is all THEIR fault. It sounds like you are ready to make some changes in your life and face things in your past, so go for it.

And if you just need to vent, send me a note (or send it to most anyone here). We all care, and have lots of different lifestyles and experiences that might be of help to you.
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Old 09-23-2013, 10:03 PM   #6
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Been to therapy numerous times. Took my kids to therapy whenever i felt they needed it. My daughter and I weren't getting along well during her 15/16 year which is typical for teenagers. We had been really close. We went to therapy. It was awesome we went a few times together fixed our communication and she wanted to continue to go. She loved it. She said although I just talk and talk and she listens sometimes she interjects something or questions me which really makes me think. She said it really helped her during a confusing time. She is still 100% pro therapy. I love therapy. You get to say whatever you want and there is no judgement! They also can't tell anyone! lol. If you are angry all the time and carry hurt and anger from your past man go to therapy! You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. If you find it's not helping you usually have the wrong therapist. Good luck!!!
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I went to therapy when I was 15 to about 17 maybe? The first chick I saw was a total BITCH. I saw her maybe 3 times. She was just horrible. She told my grandmother in a "family session" something I had told the therapist in confidence. Seriously? My grandma of all people? I switched and ended up with someone I liked a lot... So don't think it makes you weak, don't think it sucks if the person sucks... just find another. I loved it. Someone to talk to that has zero affiliation with the source of your problems is awesome and helps you to let go of a lot.
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