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Old 01-06-2014, 11:06 PM   #11
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I love that you and the hubby are on the same page Pink. I'm sure CJ will be the light of your life.
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I would probably take him as well if I were in your shoes. Understand however that this is a lifetime of work. Don't assume that your son or his girlfriend will ever get better. For the sake of CJ, you need to assume that you are his parent until he is 18. There could be good times ahead, they may get better, they may get better then fall back off, it's going to be a rocky road, but if there is anyone out there that can do it, it's you.

You should also send a message over to Pookshere... she may have some wise words on this topic.
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Pink, we love you. I'm so glad you and your hubby got to sit down and talk about this together, too. Because it is a big decision for the two of you.
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Sigh... My heart is aching tonight as my son informed me he thinks his gf is pregnant again... He already has 2 babies he can't care for, 1 of which he's seen probably 3 times & he's 2 years old, the other he has no custody of & hasn't seen in months cuz his drugs are more important... Now another :/

I just dint understand how this is the son I raised?
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its not the son you raised. its the drugs!!!!
ALWAYS remember that!!!! ALWAYS!!!!!
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That's really sad Pink. I'm so sorry.
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Lisa, when people get involved with things like drugs, they become different people. Like Tickle said, it is the drugs and unfortunately, they have a stronghold on your son right now. I'm so sorry, my dear.
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I work with patients like your son; it's the drugs, it is not you nor a reflection upon you. You cannot accept culpability for your son's mistakes, despite how much you want to. He has to make a choice to either get better or continue to travel down this destructive path. Your hands are tied, doll. These types of paths require the person to come out of it on their own, see the 'light' and come to. If you pressure him, he will likely rebel back. Ultimately, it's his choice and when the conversation comes up strike while the iron is hot and try and get him to see to stop doing drugs. I'd call it tactful manipulation.

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Yeah, he has to want that to end more than anything in this world and it's hard work. Nothing, ever, that you say will make him stop. Ever. It's sad. I have even been told by someone I care deeply about that is an addict that the drugs aren't a bad thing. They just get a bad rap. There is nothing I can say to answer logic like that.
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